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T-rider wrote:Why not both? Did she told you choose or what?
StoreBoughtChild wrote:No shes basically just trying to control me and stop me from biking.
She shouldnt try to stop you. I would never stop anyone with a passion.
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Why is it a one or the other choice?
A good girlfirend would give you some time to ride. She shouldn't expect you to give up something you love for her. Alternately if you care about her and want to be with her, you would be more willing to find a balance and not ask others on a BMX forum.
Remember that your bike will always be there when you need it, sometimes women aren't. Maybe try "scheduling" a day or two a week where you go ride for a couple hours, and outside of that spend time with her. Or, TAKE HER RIDING if you go to a park. Let her see how happy you are when you ride, and maybe she will be cool with it, and want to go. Ask her to take photos of you riding (maybe she would have fun with photography).
When you get older your priorities change. I seriously ride maybe once a week at this point, for a couple hours.
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StoreBoughtChild wrote:She hasnt done the whole "your bike, or me, pick one" thing yet. But i know its coming. Shes not really controlling or bossy ...more
*ahem*
TALK TO HER.
Tell her you are feeling like she is unhappy about your riding.
If you are ditching her all the time to ride, it is more understandable. If not, she needs to allow you a little "guy time" once in a while to go ride.
If she isn't willing to let you have a little time to yourself, she never will.
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StoreBoughtChild wrote:She hasnt done the whole "your bike, or me, pick one" thing yet. But i know its coming. Shes not really controlling or bossy ...more
dave lawrence wrote:*ahem*
TALK TO HER.
Tell her you are feeling like she is unhappy about your riding.
If you are ditching her all the time to ...more
Basically i see her three times a week, and since i want to go ride, while she has nothing to do at home, she thinks its my fault and gets pissed that i choose to ride instead of be with her.
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Also, id like to thank all of you for taking part in this thread. Sorry for it not being bike related, i just thought others might have to deal with women not liking them ride, and i thought it might be a good thread. And it is, but still.
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StoreBoughtChild wrote:Basically i see her three times a week, and since i want to go ride, while she has nothing to do at home, she thinks its my ...more
When you see her 3 times a week, are those the only times you can hang out? Or is she free all the time, and you go ride, and she thinks that invades on your time together?
Maybe try talking to her, and let her know that riding is a big part of your life, and explain what it means to you to go ride. Try to find something she does that is similarly big in her life, and explain that her chosen activity to her is what riding is to you. Sometimes putting it into perspective like that helps.
Otherwise just tell her you want to ride at least 2 times a week, and she can deal with it, tell her that a couple chosen days each week should be "hang with friends" days.
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95horsepower wrote:Take your seat off once a week and let her enjoy cruising on the bike too bro
I like this idea.
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95horsepower wrote:Take your seat off once a week and let her enjoy cruising on the bike too bro
biggybuggy wrote:I like this idea.
replace the seat with something else if ya know what i mean.
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you need to slap her on the ass and be like bitch i ride a bmx and you ride this dick. and that should do it. gotta be more alpha bro. you own the relationship you got the pipe and it is time to lay it
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That simple.
If she doesn't, she's no more than a booty call. A booty call is NOT a relationship.
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You have a lot of good advice on here for your relationship problem. I've been married for 16 yrs, and it sounds like you need to make a couple of easy adjustments?
1. Ride on your free time. Spend those 3 days a week with her. Show her there is time for just her
2. Spend some $ on her every time you spend $ on your bike.
3. Don't leave your bike outside. You don't leave her out side.
4. If she doesn't have a job spend time with her help her find one. By her working gives you time to to ride, puts money in her pocket to spend on your bike.
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Brian_Griffin wrote:You have a lot of good advice on here for your relationship problem. I've been married for 16 yrs, and it sounds like you need ...more
I love number 4... THAT is how priorities work!
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Brian_Griffin wrote:You have a lot of good advice on here for your relationship problem. I've been married for 16 yrs, and it sounds like you need ...more
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Mhm i have always had trouble with that. My girlfriend gets upset if i even talk to her about it. I don't even talk about it normally.
My girlfriend is not the best about BMX and stuff like that. She kinda sucks, but i don't care honestly. I am going to do what i need to do, and that is ride bikes. She can't tell me to stop that. I have been with my girlfriend for 1 and a half years. Girls i had been with from the past were questionable about my biking to, but they didnt really last long. I wish i had a girlfriend that supported me, i wish i had more people that supported me.
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MaximusBikes wrote:Mhm i have always had trouble with that. My girlfriend gets upset if i even talk to her about it. I don't even talk about it ...more
Get her a crusing bike to go with on occasion, and a camera to take photos (if she is into that). That way you spend time together, you get to ride, she gets to spend time with you.
Take her riding with you as well, maybe she will see what it is all about and share in it a bit more. My fiance' likes to come watch sometimes, but knows I need to get out once in a while as it is what helps me burn off my stress.
Once warmer weather hits, she is coming with me to the plaza to take some photos and hang out 
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MaximusBikes wrote:Mhm i have always had trouble with that. My girlfriend gets upset if i even talk to her about it. I don't even talk about it ...more
I feel you man, i am the only one in my town that bmxs. Even my parents dont support me, but atleast they sometimes give me money that i spend in parts...
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Man my gf was jealous too bcuz my passion for bmx... He tried to make me feel bad for it asking questions like : And what would you choose, and she asked me the "bike or her question" but nothing stopped me from riding, now im still with her but she understood that i love bmx, and i would choose the bike...
Personally i dont give a S about what she feelt about it... Its the truth...
I divide my time riding and spending time with her... But if i want to ride more, I WILL. Cuz I dont like to do things because of responsability yet...
Oh and I have 5 months with her.
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I'm buying my gf a brand new car, she knows better than to complain when i want to ride lol
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